Project Me had a little hiatus, but I’m so happy we’re up and running again! Today’s guest post comes from new bloggy friend Milena - one of the many new friends I met thanks to Pugly Pixel giveaway! She’s going to share with us what she did to took care of herself post-breakup.
I knew it hadn’t been working for a while but we were both so comfortable with each other (we also lived together & had three pets) and it seemed like too much work to figure out how to split everything up and where we would go from there. When I noticed that he was slowly changing from the man I fell in love with into someone else, I finally worked up the courage to start the dreaded conversation. We both agreed it was time to end our 3 year relationship. It was pretty weird spending the next few days alone in the apartment. It was a huge change but gave me a lot more time to think and reflect on the past. I realized I hadn’t been taking care of myself. I had horrible roots & hadn’t dressed up since the last wedding we went to. I used to love wearing skirts & heels but since we didn’t go out often (he preferred to spend time at home) I just wore jeans and t-shirts. I started dressing up for work and bought myself several pairs of cute Blowfish boots. I haven’t worn sneakers since! I’ve also started to see my friends more often (I think we’re all guilty of this- when we start dating someone we tend to stop hanging out with our friends as much as we used to. A friendship is a relationship too & if you don’t work on it, it’ll end!) and made a goal list for what I wanted to get done this year that I normally would not have had the time to.
But the most important thing I did for myself was getting my hair done. I got highlights and the keratin treatment. I’ve always had really frizzy hair that took forever to blowdry & on rainy days there was nothing I could do but put it in a ponytail. This treatment honestly feels like it changed my life! My hair now air dries perfectly and I don’t have to use any hair gels or sprays! It’s silky and smooth & makes me feel pretty when I look in the mirror! So, yes, breakups can be hard, but try to think of them as a new chapter in your life story. Your life isn’t over; you’re getting a fresh start! I’m really excited about all the possibilities in my future (and it definitely helps that I’m not completely alone but have my loving little pug at my side).
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Breakups are so hard, especially when two people share a home.
Milena has such an amazing outlook! And, she has amazing hair! :)
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I think it’s a great attitude to take a negative thing and turn it into a positive. Yes, break ups are hard but they can also really be an opportunity. This was a great post and Milena’s hair looks great!
Maddy, the blog got a new look while I was gone! :-) I love it and I love this guest post too. It’s very true – breakups are so hard because who you’re with is a part of you a lot of times. Good for you for recognizing that you weren’t where you wanted / needed to be and having the courage to move forward. And your hair looks great!
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Getting your hair done can really make SUCH a difference! I haven’t had any permanent stuff done like she has, but I can imagine how nice it must be to have a perpetual good hair day. I wish her the best of luck in the future! :)
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Good advice … and best wishes as you begin this next chapter!
Doing something for you, like transforming your hair into pure fabulosity is the numero uno way for getting over a breakup. It shows that you respect, appreciate, and love yourself – three things the next boy in your life should adore about you! :)
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love the post, it’s weird, when I was younger all I thought about is going out with my girl friends and pick up dudes, and now I find that I’m hanging out with my girlfriends and NOT picking up dudes and just focusing on girl stuff more and I love it!
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keep at it! Taking care of yourself and your friends. and your pug :)
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Good to hear, I notice many people after a breakup feel lost at the very beginning, then go on to feeling rejuvenated and a new sense of self. :)
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I need a keratin treatment!
xoxox,
CC
New hair is the perfect post breakup remedy to make you feel refreshed and new…and to reflect your inner beauty on the outside too :)
Good for you!! It takes a lot of courage to be by yourself and really reflect on your life!! ((hugs))
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i love milena’s website — along with her dog cinnamon! new hair. no boyfriend! the world is her oyster as they say. her life is just beginning!
xo
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I love your optimism. It sounds like you are on the right track!
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The goal list idea can be very productive and encouraging. The new hair routine is also a classic! Always give us a burst of energy and excitement! Love this post!
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It is so important to take care of yourself after a bad breakup. My last breakup was prior to meeting my husband. I looked a wreck. To top it off my dad ended up in the hospital around the same time. I lost 15 pounds and started getting really sick. My now husband nipped that in the bud…really quickly…
The important thing to learn about breakups is that life goes on and it’s just a new beginning.
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Oh, I found break-ups always traumatising, but totally agree that a hair make-over can make a huge difference. I’ve heard so much about the keratin treatment, it sounds quite magical.
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Great attitude! ♥ Break-ups are so sad ;( But I like the post!
It’s so inspirational to hear that you were able to turn something negative into something positive for yourself. Thanks for sharing your story!
Eternally yours,
Stephanie
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hi maddy… long time no see… finally i see the project me.. the model looks adorable with new hair.. well done darling..
and i really love the optimistic of you. the breakup is so hard.. but just believe that there is alwas be sunshine after the rain..
love
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Well I’m glad you have such a positve attitude, and are ready to move forward. And your hair looks great! And it’s only natrual that when you’re in a relationship, you spend less time with your friends, there are only so many hours in a day. But I’m glad you’ve been able to reconnect with your friends during this time. Its amazing how important friendships can be during times like these :)
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